I consider neediness a weakness. I don't need. If anything, one of my major needs is not to need. I have a fear of being dependent on things at a fixed, permanent level. What if these things disappear? Then what would I do? Therefore, in order to avoid such cataclysm of events, I avoid needing altogether.
I am critical of the idea of being one of those people who depends on some external object for internal validation. I don't need this sort of thing. I liken it to a disgusting life support system. All of those external props take away from the beauty of a person being able to live on her own. While I recognize that from time to time, it's necessary to get an outside hand, I have never and will never latch onto anything for permanent life support. If I can't do it and sustain it on my own, then it can't be done. Period.
I'm rather like a cat. I come and go according to my desire. I do not overstay my welcome. I don't stick around long enough to be taken for granted. I'm not annoying. I prefer to be missed, somewhat mysterious, and, of course, always welcome.